Your mind and body are NOT separate and men that are integrated are the men in charge of their lives fully and able to fully enjoy their lives, relationships and sex.
100% of my clients over the last 20 years present with some level of fight or flight triggers over active in their body causing their mind to not function in the moment as well (sluggish in response time and reduced in creative expression) as blocking their capacity to be sexually present.
The fight-or-flight response (also called the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response [in PTSD], hyperarousal, or the acute stress response) is a physiological reaction that occurs in response to a perceived harmful event, attack, or threat to survival. It was first described by Walter Bradford Cannon. The key term here is "perceived threat". There is no actual threat but the client has become significantly effected by stress that this auto response has its switch flipped into the ON position or is being flipped in less than ideal times.
You can't process emotions if you have a significant disconnect to the felt sense in your body. >>> If you can't process emotions you get stuck in your head. >>>> If you stay stuck in your head you will have a less than potent sex life and less than smooth go of it with women.
Your mind is just a processor of what data the body collects and attaches a nerve vibration/activation. This data comes to us through our senses...hearing, sight, touch, scent, taste.
All these senses collect our data for our emotional intelligence (intuitive sense) that then gets sent up to the brain to be converted into a verbal response or decision. If there is an emotional blockage or a physical injury this communication will be slow, sluggish or next to none existent.
Men that are great with women are men that can think on their feet and feel into the women and the whole environment. Men that struggle with women have a block they need to seek help from a mind/body practitioner to resolve.
When cut off from this felt sense you will go searching for intellectual data and the responses of others to guide you. It is impossible in this blocked state to be able to guide yourself thus her. It be a great husband, father, date, freind , lover you must be able to guide yourself and have enough presences to guide a woman as well.
Sexually vulnerability makes men easy targets for manipulation by women and men that have more mastery over their felt sense and every thing you will learn in this course than you do.
Guys that live mostly referenced form their head and others direction struggle the most with management of their sexual lives. They become compartmentalized and when their sexual need gets "too strong" to resist they will finally listen to and go to the body to make that sensation go away becasue it is uncomfortable and tortuous to them. It isn't something to fully enjoy it or really connect deeply with, only something to use for brief escapism. Sexual turn on becomes a burden and an arousal something to get rid of in a man that has a felt sense disconnect.
Your Body IS your Emotional Life Storehouse
You can't have great sex when your mind and body are fighting each other.
Whenever someone labels your ache, pain or imbalance of the body as being due to stress, what they are really saying is, your emotional life is seeking ways to express. Ways that you have not been providing a constructive outlet for consciously, for a significant enough amount of time (differs for each of us) that there is now a "high alert" message being se nt through your physical being. It is seeking your attention to a connection with your emotional life via your bodily imbalance/pain/restriction.shutdown/aches.
My work is mind AND body for this reason and many more. For every hour you study with your intellect you need to provide 2 hours of attention to you emotional/physical discharge and real time practices if you want mastery.
Posture is how you present in your body, hold you hold yourself.
Body Language is how your posture is processed by others to generate an estimation of your well being, mental state, you emotional state and your intentions with them and in the world.
Embodiment is actually how your emotional life has formed your posture to convey the message that is picked up by others through your body language. This is either unconscious or you are working with it in a conscious way to gain a new natural way of being unconsciously competent.
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Embodiment is a whole other level beyond body language and posture...it factors into believably ...do you OWN FULLY what you are speaking??? face forward men are pleasers and not fully integrated mind and body so are to be considered bad lovers and leaders....unless he suffers from a disease or has had his neck and back broken in an accident then that is the conclusion I would draw as a professional profiler of body language, a professional educator on embodiment and sub consciously women and alpha men will feel this even though they can't break it down like a professional can.
Most of my pleaser "nice" guys are
head forward posture which makes them perceived as weak and inept and cutting off oxygen to their brains so they ca't intuit and are in constant fight or flight mode. They can't think on their feet this way and get constant rejection feedback from more powerful men and woman.These men are viewed as a weak link and drain on the tribe.
Women are not the enemy but SO VERY often "Nice Guy Syndrome" has men's bodies consonantly bracing itself to the perceived threat of women.
You can say to yourself "I am safe and its silly to be afraid or so stressed around women" all you want, but when you mind/body connection is in a fight or flight pattern then all the self talk, approach training and education of the mind in the world won't change things.
You HAVE to interrupt the neurological pattern or you will never b
e able to apply what I teach and never be a free man truly.
I can help you!